Topics covered in this post:
Persian New Year
Mental Health and Wellness Support
Note from Parents' Association President
Staffing Update - Social Worker
Upcoming March Events
Upcoming April Events
1. Persian New Year
To all in the JICS community who celebrate Nowruz, NOWRUZ PIROUZ!
Nowruz is the day of the vernal equinox, and marks the beginning of spring in the Northern Hemisphere. It marks the first day of the first month (Farvardin) of the Iranian calendars. Typically, before the arrival of Nowruz, family members gather around the Haft-sin table and await the exact moment of the March equinox to celebrate the New Year. Traditionally, the Haft-sin (seven things beginning with the letter sin (س)) are:
• Sabze – wheat, barley, mung bean, or lentil sprouts grown in a dish
• Samanu – sweet pudding made from wheat germ
• Persian olive
2. School Closure
Our hearts go out to all who have been affected by the COVID-19 outbreak, and we are deeply grateful to the thousands of healthcare workers who are on the front lines helping their communities.
As instructed by the Ontario Government, the JICS Lab School and all independent schools will be closed until Monday, April 6, 2020. The University of Toronto is now closed to the general public and the JICS administrative team have been instructed to work from home. You can reach us at:
With information about COVID-19 changing daily, we need to be flexible and to anticipate the unexpected. Communication regarding learning activities designed for the children during the school closure will be shared with each cohort beginning on Monday, March 23.
3. Mental Health and Wellness Support: Parenting in the Coronavirus Age
These are uncertain and stressful times for everyone around the world right now. For those of us who are parents, there is the added concern of wanting to shield our children from the anxiety we are ourselves feeling, while at the same time provide them with the information they need to be protected from the virus. Some of you may be wondering how to have conversations with your children about what is going on, or how to help them cope with their worries.
How to Talk to Children about COVID-19
This recent article from the Globe and Mail offers helpful suggestions for talking to children about the global COVID-19 pandemic.
It recommends such tips as:
Manage one’s own anxiety first – showing children how you cope with your own worries is good way to model resilience
Meet children at their level - this is a good rule thumb for how to respond in a developmentally appropriate way to any challenging topic, by listening to children and letting their questions guide what information is being shared
Always be truthful – answer questions honestly and directly, but without offering more information than is being asked for
Provide a sense of control – empower children by teaching them what they can do keep themselves and others healthy
Make the best of a new normal, by using this an opportunity to create new memories, and spending time with your children
Alyson Schafer, (parenting expert and JICS friend) writes her thoughts on what children need most from us right now in this helpful article, emphasizing the importance of filtering and processing any information shared with children and helping them to feel safe. She reminds us that our attitudes are infectious and that children are watching us for clues as to how they should be feeling. Extra cuddles are highly recommended as needed!
CBC KidsNews has created some videos to help answer some specific questions:
Coronavirus Video for Children: Just for Kids: A Comic Exploring the New Coronavirus
Look for the Helpers
Adding to these suggestions, the wisdom of Fred Rogers reminds us when talking to children in times of tragedy or crisis to “look for the helpers". Highlighting all the amazing people who are working on the frontlines of this current situation (e.g. the health care workers who are helping those who are ill; the scientists leading the research into vaccines or testing kits; the politicians who are working to ensure there is financial support; the supermarket employees keeping the shelves stocked with food) can serve to comfort them with the knowledge that the adults have a plan, people are helping, and things are going to be okay. Pointing out to children examples of altruism, kindness, and social solidarity is another way to build a sense hope and optimism to counter the unsettling reality of school closures and social distancing.
It is completely understandable and normal to feel some anxiety right now, and it’s important to acknowledge this for ourselves and for our children. Again, turning to a recent article in the Globe and Mail, we are reminded to go easy on ourselves and support each other. Adapting the ideas shared in this article to children, we offer these thoughts:
Recognize that it’s OK to be worried – accepting that there are things beyond our control is an important step to coping with the current reality.
Stay in touch – call, text, email friends and family. Pick up the phone – stay close emotionally. Offer to get groceries for a neighbour. Help your children to stay connected to friends and family through the phone and video calls as well.
Keep a routine – Many children thrive best with routines. Try to give these days at home some structure, including regular healthy meals, exercise, time outdoors, and regular sleeping times.
Keep things in perspective – avoiding negativity, and focusing on the positives, such as ‘the majority of people recover from this and this will be over in a few months’ will help you and your children to remain calm and optimistic.
Avoid going down an internet rabbit hole – it’s fine to go online to get a quick update, but it’s easy to get lost in and overwhelmed by the coverage of this pandemic. Set aside a specific time to check through the day and stick to reputable sources of information. If your child is old enough to read the news, curate what they are exposed to and have a conversation about it.
Know when to seek help – if you find yourself or your children having trouble coping, you may need to talk with a professional.
Social Work Support for JICS Children with Laura Gordin
If you are concerned that your child is experiencing an unmanageable level of anxiety, we are offering the services of Laura Gordin, our school social worker, during the days she would normally be at school: Monday March 23 and March 30. Please feel free to email Laura if you would like to seek her help or schedule a time to have a phone call. We also recommend getting in touch with your pediatrician for further assistance.
Try this calming “square breathing exercise” with your children, recommended by Laura:
Isolation Mood Lifters
Here are some more ideas to boost children’s morale and lift everyone’s moods:
Practice Gratitude– Talk together about what or who you are grateful for in your lives everyday.
Get Outside – Nothing lifts one’s mood like fresh air, sunshine, and time in nature. Go for a walk, a bike ride, or just muck about in the yard.
Laugh – Make time for laughter as often as possible. Read jokes together, read humorous books, watch a funny show together, or just be silly.
Play – Play with your children doing what they want to do. Renowned child psychiatrist Dr. Daniel Greenspan’s notion of “floor time” recognizes the important of meeting children on their level to foster their emotional security. This also serves to strengthen your relationship by showing you value what they care about and enjoy.
Read – Make time each day to read together. Depending on the age of your children this might be each reading your own books while snuggling, or sharing chapter book or picture books together.
Listen to Music – Listening to or creating music together, dancing, and singing are all great ways to relieve stress and feel better.
Connect – Connect with friends and family on the phone and video calls. We may be alone but we don’t have to be lonely!
For more ideas on how to cope with parenting in isolation:
We also recommend following Alyson Schafer, parenting expert, who is going to post a daily message on Twitter and Facebook for parents: @alysonschafer @AlysonSchaferParentingExpert
As Trudeau reminded us earlier this week, “The strength of our country is our capacity to come together and care for each other, especially in times of need.” The strength and kindness of our school community is a good reason to feel hopeful, and can serve as a resource for all of us. Together, we’ll get through the next few weeks or months. Know that Richard, Chriss, the teachers, and staff are with you, and please do not hesitate to reach out if you need support.
4. A Note from the President of the Parents' Association
Dear JICS Families,
We hope this note finds you and your family in good health.
While we are facing unprecedented times, I want to take a moment to thank Richard, Chriss, our faculty and staff for keeping us informed and providing us with guidance while we are all on an extended break from school.
To those members of our community who are working on the front lines and risking their own health to keep us all safe, we thank you.